You know, it is really easy when you follow these guidelines:
Don’t worry about an opening line – Just say what comes naturally
Don’t be over eager
Be genuinely interested in him
Now then, here is the secret – Listen much more than talk…
Here is the scoop:
Everyone likes to talk about themselves. In fact, the favorite word of most people – is their name…
And almost everyone thinks their story is the most interesting story of all – – – That does not mean the person is self-centered, or egotistical. That just means the person is normal. The more aware of this – you are, the easier the conversation will be.
And, don’t worry your time will come to tell your story – –
If we stop to analyze this – remember, you won’t learn anything talking about yourself. You already know your story. You want to hear his story. After all, if you like him – don’t you want to know more about him?
And isn’t the easiest way to learn about him – is to LISTEN?
And trying to impress – FORGET IT!
Actually the best way to impress is to be interested in him. If you do not have a genuine interest in him – than why go through the exercise of wondering how to start a conversation with a guy in the first place?
Can you fake interest? Some people can. A politician once told me, “The difference between you and me is you actually are interested in people.”
Isn’t that an interesting comment? So, you can fake it. But why do so. If you are faking interest in this guy, you are apparently approaching the wrong guy. If you are not truly interested in him – why waste your time, and his?
So, if you have to ‘fake it’ – you have your sights on the wrong guy. Find a guy that you are genuinely interested – and confine ‘faking it’ to the trash can. That is where ‘faking’ belongs.
Do these pieces begin to fall into place for you? When you reduce it down to basic principles – it is quite easy to put into action.
But remember, the great prizes of life are awarded to those who truly master the Art of Communication. Listening is a huge part – in most cases it is the untold secret of communication. So, while this suggestion is tremendously significant, it is not the whole story.
It can make an awesome difference in your communication – – – just imagine the changes in your life if you really did master all the techniques of communication!!