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Adorable Things Guys Love But Won’t Admit To In Front of Their Buddies

What is it about men and their friends? Have you ever noticed how your man shifts into a different persona when he's with his friends? To us women it's all a bit adorable and charming. We get to see our guy as a romantic partner who responds to certain words and actions but when he's with his friends he transforms into this tough guy who doesn't need love at all. It's a strange thing for a woman to see because we're more than comfortable not only expressing how much we love our man in front of our friends, but he's often one of our favoured topics of conversation. Men are obviously very different than we are and that's one of the things that make them so utterly irresistible. Take for instance the things guys love but would never admit in front of their buddies. There's a bunch of things your man really desires from you but you'd be hard pressed to get him to list them especially if another man is present in the room.

Here are just a few things guys secretly love:

Pet names. Men love pet names. You know how you sometimes call him, "baby" or "sweetie" or anything else that suggests he holds a special place in your heart? He adores that and it's something he craves. Take note that he doesn't want you calling him anything other than his given name in front of his friends so be mindful of that.

Taking extra special care of you. Do you see how excited your guy gets when you ask him to do something just for you? It may be something as seemingly meaningless as running you a bubble bath or folding your laundry for you. However, if it puts a smile on your face and helps you to feel cherished, he loves doing that for you. Obviously, he's not going to announce to his buddies that he's taking care of you in ways like that. Some men have a skewed view of what a man should and shouldn't be doing and doing anything that even remotely resembles housework tends to fall under that umbrella.

Going to the game with you. As much as you may think your guy loves going to his favorite sporting events with his friends, he'd much rather go as your date. Men absolutely love women who love sports. If you can sit through a football or hockey game with your guy and you know what's going on, you're going to win points in his book forever. Men are notoriously protective of their "guy nights" so that's why you're rarely going to ever hear a man confess that he'd like to go to a game with his girl instead of his buddies. To test him, why not get tickets to the next big game and watch his face light up when you say you're going with him?

Going shopping with you. Enough fun has been made about how men secretly loathe shopping that most women won't even attempt to get their guy to accompany them to the mall. He wants to go with you though for one very important reason. He wants to spend that time with you. Men will wind up in the most unlikely places including the theatre, the opera and even a baby shower if it means they can spend that time with the woman they adore. Don't expect him to tell his buddies that he can't hang out with them because he needs to accompany you to your manicure. He'd be the brunt of too many jokes for too long if he did that.

Remember that the dynamic you share with your man is very different than the dynamic he shares with his friends. Keep those special moments and interactions that you two share, just between the two of you. When he does go out to spend time with his friends, know inside that the connection you two share is special and surpasses any other friendship he has in his life. You're his girl, so never forget that.

I Want Marriage And He Doesn’t! How to Find a Compromise That Works

"I want marriage, he doesn't!" That's not the ideal situation to find yourself in, is it? Being in love with a man who has an aversion to marriage, when it's the only thing you truly want, puts the two of you on opposite ends of a very big divide. This situation is obviously ripe with problems and unless you can find a compromise that works for you both, you may end up having to part ways. It all depends on how committed to the idea of marriage you are, and how dead set against it he is.

When a woman wants to get married she's generally quite vocal about it with the man she envisions as her future husband. Why wouldn't we want to talk about it? If we feel we've found the man who is destined to be our mate, it fills our heart with an undeniable sense of joy and gratitude. We slowly start planning all the details of the special day in our minds. We think about who we want to be there to witness our vows and what the dress will look like. Some of us even go so far as to plan the menu, choosing just the right entree and dessert. It's hard not to get caught up in those thoughts if a wedding has been something you've dreamt of since you were a teenager. All of that imaginary planning and anticipation can come crashing down if the man you picture standing at the altar as your future husband decides that marriage isn't in his future.

Before you do anything, you must decide if the wedding and the title of his wife is really worth risking the entire relationship. It may feel that it's a stance you won't or can't change but if you're faced with the choice of being alone because he refused to marry you or being with him in a committed relationship that doesn't include marriage, you really need to weigh those two options. Do you honestly believe you could be happy without the guy you love? That's a question you need to seriously ask yourself before you decide to leave the relationship because he won't propose.

Finding a compromise may seem impossible in this situation but it's not really all that hard. What many women have proposed to their marriage reluctant partner is an extended engagement. It gives you the security of knowing that he wants you all to himself yet at the same time he doesn't feel a wedding planner is breathing down his neck. Yes, the wedding may be far in the future, or it may never come but at least you are bound to one another in a very tangible way and you have the ring to prove that he really does love you.

Another compromise is to make an agreement that you will treat each other, emotionally and legally, as partners. That means that from this day forward you are his common law wife and you reap all the benefits that come with that position. You two live together, you work together towards a mutual future and you draw up legal documents that protect each others' interests in the event that something happens to one of you. You start referring to him as your "husband" and he views you as his "wife" for all intent and purposes.

Proposing the common law approach to a man who just doesn't see the value in marriage is going to garner one of two responses. Either he'll recoil at the idea because it feels too close to marriage to him or he'll embrace it because it's fulfilling at least some of your fundamental needs.

If he does indeed balk at the idea of you two living your lives as unofficial spouses, consider his true commitment to you. If he loved you as much as he professes, he'll want to find a compromise that makes you both happy. When a man only looks for his own needs and wants to be met, that's a deeper problem that really needs to be addressed before the relationship can move forward.